It’s just dishes..

As I was unloading the dishwasher this morning. I immediately thought, there are too many forks in that part and why are those cups touching. Then I also thought. Why am I complaining!? 

I have 4 boys. 5 if you count the 37 yr old cause I mean let’s be honest. Boys will be boys ( yes I am using that saying. So go ahead and bash for that I don’t care. It’s true!) In my house chores aren’t enforced. Sometimes when we really feel these kids should be doing more or I really need the help. I enforce them. Well I am not the clean neat freak that I would like to be in any way. But having kids sure does keep me running around picking up more than if it was just myself and Mondo. 

I complain I have no help. I complain they need to clean there room. I tell them they aren’t done and there’s still more. I say please take out trash. Do the dishes. And I must remind them that they need to replace the trash bag and put away the clean dishes before adding the dirty ones. I’m a mom. This is my life. 

I complain they don’t help around house enough. It stresses me out. And then as well cause I am so upset. I’m on them about the wrappers all over. The Soda cans. The water bottles. The empty glasses. The paper plates, oh the paper plates. Because the trash is just too hard to get to I guess. But it’s still an ongoing battle. 

Back to this morning and the dishwasher. I just told myself “why do you need to be upset about the way they loaded the dishes so much?!” I think I worry about there wives telling them “Oh your mom never showed you?” And I know I care about the stupidest things. Pretty sure no matter how much I show or train these boys. They will do it how they feel is right in the long run. No matter what it is. And they will be in trouble with there wives just like there Dad. 

How important is the damn loading of the dishwasher anyway. I mean seriously. Who cares. Why did I. Why have I for so long!? I should be thanking them! They helped out. They loaded without complaint this time. As much as I may hate to admit it this. I really can use the help no matter how much or little it is. 

This is the important Are the dishes clean? Yes. Did the kids help? Yes. Does the forks going one way make them a bad person? No but they need to learn lol. Why was I so worried about that. Next load I can kindly say make sure the forks don’t nestle into each other. 

The past couple months I have been working on more focus less stress and this morning was a test over stupid dishes! 

I am thankful they help and I am going to accept the help much more I’m pretty sure life will suck when I don’t have 3 loads of dishes everyday along with chaos, loudness and yelling. People are always telling me “Your gonna miss this”.

What I think I’m getting at for least for myself. Is my boys are growing so fast and I don’t want to spend the time nit picking everything and sounding like a crazy woman. May be too late already LOL. So thank you boys for helping and just keep helping. Make sure the middle is clear and the forks aren’t nestled into each other and you will be just fine.